EnFOQUE
Commentary on issues, resources, and conversations about sexuality, the body, and intimacy from a sex-positive, pleasure activist perspective
Honoring others’ gender identities
Who we are is … well … who we are. And only we have the right to claim who we are. And we even have a right to change that. As a cis-gender male, I have no right to tell anyone else who they are. Learning how to walk in that awareness has helped me...
Life learning: Seeking growth and awareness
The other day I was driving home and started to think about how long I’ve “been in school.” I started my journey in kindergarten at Benito Martinez Elementary in Fort Hancock, Texas, way back in the mid-1970s. I still remember the bright blue and red vinyl plastic...
Breaking down barriers: Gay men and HIV
Not too long ago, I found myself in a place of connecting intimately with a men I had recently met. Tall, strong, with deep dark eyes and a smile that destroyed me many times over, we had flirted off and on, and allowed our experiences to unfold as they tend to do...
Claiming my sexual health: My journey with PrEP
Tantamount to any decision that I make in my life is to be in full awareness of who I am, what I am experiencing, and what potential information may emerge from whatever actions I choose to take. I always seek to enhance my experience in life moving forward. For me,...
The beauty of humanity: Beyond the binary
This week, in the midst of all the other countless chaotic situations our country is experiencing, we get word that the administration is planning to pressure the U.S. Supreme Court to short-circuit the lawful judicial process and cajole it into denying the rights of...
Pláticas auténticas: Supporting Latinos in sexual heath
Supporting Latino and Hispanic populations while considering their intersectionality can go a long way in making a difference in their sexual health. Learning some basic cultural competency skills can help you better support marginalized populations. First some basic...
The pleasure principle: Reclaiming your joy by reducing your risk
(ADULT) For many people who are attempting to live a satisfying life, having sex without fear and anxiety can be quite challenging. Often there are struggles related to a conservative upbringing, acceptance of identity and expression, and more often than not, fear of...
What does intimacy look like? One perspective
Many moons ago, high on a mountain in northern California, during a retreat for healing, I created an experiment. I decided I was going to do something I had never done before, just to see if I could do it. I wanted to be seen. I chose a man from the workshop, and,...
All of Me: Stepping Into the Light
One day, after spending literally all of my life operating with a belief that I never bothered to question, that moment emerged. That moment when I realized that perhaps, maybe perhaps, it was time to make a fundamental change to how I chose to be in the world. It...
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