EnFOQUE
Commentary on issues, resources, and conversations about sexuality, the body, and intimacy from a sex-positive, pleasure activist perspective
Evolving: A Professional Update
Things are moving forward As I wrote this update, I was enjoying a week-long self-imposed self-care retreat at Zipolite Beach, a beautiful, remote community in Oaxaca, México. I spent a week relaxing, rejuvenating, and re-imagining what the world will look like for me...
In our bodies: Breaking through to self-love
For all the enthusiasm that lots of gay men have about their sexual encounters, I often hear quite a bit about the shame some carry about their bodies. It’s an interesting paradox. How can we fully celebrate who we are sexually and otherwise if we aren’t proud of who...
Great sexual health guides for diverse communities
Working in sexual health and wellness, I find that folks often seek safer sex resources that speak their language and honor their experiences. Most information available is written from a sanitary, clinical perspective, often without the cultural competency needed to...
Turning jealousy into ecstasy: Opening up relationships
One of the biggest challenges you may face when in a committed relationship is exploring “opening” that relationship. To many people, opening a relationship involves being in agreement to pursue interactions with others normally shared only with each other. This kind...
Eros, Creativity, and Healing: Thoughts About Connecting with Yourself
In this unforseen and unprecedented time, I find one of themes emerging in chatting with others involves how to adjust to the lack of opportunity to be in physical proximity and connection with loved ones. Chaos abounds. In our heads, we know we are to stay apart for...
Breaking down barriers: Transcending beyond fears of offering touch
One of my greatest passions and pursuits in life is to guide others into understanding how the power of our humanity can take priority over constructs, limitations, rules, regulations, or beliefs. In healing environments, we should eagerly step into a space of...
Tickling Kink? Erotic Play Through Laughter
(ADULT) When jumping into erotic exploration, most people don't think about tickling as a way to build energy and connection. But think about it. What jumps into your mind, and what memories jump "into your body," when I ask you to remember the last time someone...
My experience attending an eros workshop that changed my life
About seven years ago, in 2010, after completing Celebrating the Body Erotic (CBE) a couple of years prior, I said “yes” to Gabriel Clark, who was the registrar for the Body Electric School. I said “yes” to Gabriel that I would, indeed, attend Dear Love of...
How to “Do It:” Great sexual health guides for diverse communities
Working in sexual health and wellness, I find that folks often seek safer sex resources that speak their language and honor their experiences. Most information available is written from a sanitary, clinical perspective, often without the cultural competency needed to...
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