I Work With Men Individually, in Relationship with beloved(s), and With Groups
When you are seeking to find and explore yourself, with another, or in community
When you are struggling to deepen your committed connection, or seeking to take it to the next level
When your journey has brought you to into an expansive space for finding erotic brotherhood in community
Sexual performance, including ED or PE
Often sexual performance is hindered not by issues related to your physical body, but instead to issues related to your mind and spirit. I can guide you through practices and exercises to help reframe arousal and potentially bring you back to the level of performance you seek within yourself.
Struggling with your attractions or your gender identity
Our identity often lies in a spectrum, and very few of us fall completely into a simple category or description. Understanding that you are different, exploring how that is defined in your world, and finding that identity that you can most fully embrace (or, recognizing you do not fit anyone’s definition of an identity) is key to a life of greater joy and fulfillment. Together we can explore what that means for you.
Gaining confidence and getting what you want
Few recognize the potency of your eroticism as a fundamental component of claiming your power and motivation to achieve your goals and reach accomplishments in your life. Using this lens of eros, I can help guide you to understanding how eros can serve as that element that brings you closer to fulfillment and making the most of your opportunities.
Negotiating your needs in sexual relationships
If you are unsatisfied or frustrated in your intimate, erotic, or sexual relationships, it is possible that one key reason is that you are unable to step into a space of declaring your wants and needs to yourself and to your partners. Although it seems counter-intuitive, learning to ask for what you need often creates momentous shifts in how much pleasure, joy, and fulfillment you receive from yourself and from others. I can show you how to build on practices to get you what you want, in full integrity, with consent, and with the frequency you not only desire but deserve.
Exploring kinks, fetishes, and what arouses you
Unfortunately many of us may live in a world where shame, judgement, and negativity keep us from experiencing the full opportunities that lie in celebrating pleasure. You may find you are curious about specific experiences, activities, and actions, but have no one to help you understand how those curiousities may hold wells of opportunity to expand and grow in both pleasure and empowerment. Working together I can guide you to understanding how to claim these components of your erotic and sexual life as yours, and how to immerse yourself into them in a way that honors you and delivers on those gifts that were meant for you to experience.
Releasing shame and stepping into empowerment
For many, shame is a fundamental part of sexuality. If you live in a conservative culture, identify as anything other than cis or hetersexual, or even just enjoy expressing your sexuality, you can often be the target of commentary, reactions, and even confrontations about who you are as a person in the world.
Standing strongly in your identity, orientation, and expression can result in powerful change in your life. Suddenly, by being able to look beyond others’ expectations, needs, and desires for you, you automatically become empowered. And that empowerment can only become stronger as you step into who you are with greater commitment, confidence, and self-acceptance.
Learning more about sexual health and STI prevention
For many, information on sexual health was obtained through the context of fear, shame, and intimidation. Sexual activity before marriage (even with only yourself) may have been shunned. Sexually-transmitted infections were described to you in a way that fostered fear and a desire to avoid sex altogether.
The truth is that not only is sex and sexuality part of life, but it is fundamental to many for true appreciation of life and happiness. Healthy sexual relationships give us a more expansive understanding of how to connect with each other, helps us to feel safe and comfortable in vulnerability, and ultimatey for many, find true love.
Together we can walk through sexual health and prevention to give you an honest, realistic, and thorough understanding of this fundamental component for your life. Free of bias, judgement, and influence, understanding sexual health and prevention from STIs and HIV can lower anxiety, help you make more realistic informed decisions, and enjoy your body more fully — the way it was meant to be.
Finding heart-centered erotic community
For some, sexuality expands beyond the self and another or others. It extends to community. Celebrating eroticism, sexuality, and intimacy in a community of individuals who know how to practice consent, negotiate boundaries, and maintain connection can be a wonderful space for you if you seek it.
There are ways to explore these spaces, beginning with having a better understanding of your motivations, intentions, and purpose for these experiences. I can help you explore your options, determine spaces to consider, and connect to organizers of these spaces.
Negotiating open and non-traditional relationships
Traditional coupling of two individuals in relationship is a wonderful way to grow as a person and with another. However, other configurations of relationship exist, and can be just as healthy and beneficial for those involved.
Whether labeled as “open,” “monagamish,” non-traditional,” “polyamorous,” or “non-traditional,” many people have found highly successful, satisfying, and fulfilling relationships with more than one person. If you have thought about such relationships, currently are part of one, or are evaluating your options,
I can support you and understanding some of the manifestations of this kind of relationship that exist. We can explore your desires, intent, and purpose, and guide you to explore his dynamic with a better understanding of non-traditional relationships.
Discovering the potency of your erotic energy
Erotic energy is potent. It is powerful. It can be a source of great healing. It can help you to expand your life experience, and feed your creativity. It can help you to understand yourself with greater depth and intensity, and it is your right.
I offer support, assistance, and guidance on how to understand erotic energy, how to “find it” in your mind, body and spirit, how to harness it, build on it, and use it to experience a more complete, fulfilling, and open life.
Creating relationships that work for you and your love
Relationships are a fundamental part of many of our lives. They also, at times, can be challenging. As you progress in getting to know each other, developing intimacy and connection, possibly co-habitating, and entering into a commitment, working on key skills is critical. Learning how to communicate, how to be vulnerable, how to be authentic, and how to ask for what you want are skills that too few forget and never practice in fostering and strengthening their relationships.
I can provide you with assistance and support on how to strengthen those skills, locate resources, and work on your ability to stay centered in you while also building a loving relationship with another.
Transforming fear and shame into joy and empowerment
In many western cultures, we are taught to be ashamed of our bodies. Beyond that, we are often encouraged to believe that what we choose to do with our bodies is not our right. This leads many of us to be fearful of the physicality of who we are, and to hide and be shameful of the physiological essence of what we are in the world.
The journey from this fear and same to joy and empowerment can be long, but reaching a point of reclaiming what is yours is certainly possible. It begins with understanding our current relationship with our bodies, what stories or beliefs we carry about them, and how others feed those stories and beliefs. I am available to help you down the path to a better and more fulfilling relationship with your body.
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Frequently Asked Questions
I am looking for a counselor or therapist to help me sort out struggles or issues I am having in life. Can you assist?
No. I am not a licensed mental health provider. As a life coach/embodiment coach, my fundamental role is to help you understand what you see as your life goals, desires, and aspirations. I am not trained, nor do I provide, support if you are experiencing trauma, abusive relationships, self-harm, addictions or compulsive behaviors, or behavioral issues that may need support from a psychiatrist or physician. If you need support, please seek out the support of a licensed mental health provider.
If you are insured, one good way to start is to call the customer assistance number on your health insurance card and ask for your “behavioral health benefits.” Or, you can find more licensed providers in your area by visiting a comprehensive directory on the website of Psychology Today. Most importantly, just like with any healthcare provider, ask for what you want, and explore your options before committing to a provider.
Do you provide sex services?
No. I consider myself sex-positive, and fully support informed consent and the right of every individual to find support and access to services as they see fit. I believe that sex workers can play an important role in helping individuals learn skills and foster abilities they could not otherwise, and I am fully supportive of, and actively advocate for, sex worker rights.
I do not provide sex as a service However, people often seek out my support to learn more about how to navigate the expansive, diverse, and complex world of sexuality, which can include sex practices, sex techniques, sexuality-focused resources, and other tools and sources of knowledge. My mission and goal is to help individuals to be fully informed and able to access the information and support they need to live more fulfilling lives.
I’m not comfortable with nudity, nor am I comfortable with being sexual in front of others. Is this required?
No. Using the informed consent model of care (Learn more about Informed Consent in medical, research, and other environments From this article in Healthline), I always offer the opportunity for my clients to access the work we do together in whatever way is comfortable for them. During work sessions that may involve interactions, I always describe the activity or exercise we will engage in, explain it’s purpose, and the potential advantages or disadvantages of the activity or exercise. I request consent before, and during interactions, and will follow up after in case there are remaining questions.
Some specific workshops encourage participants to participate without clothing because being in a natural unclothed state can be powerful when working on self acceptace, acceptance of others, and participating in somatic (body-focused) exercises. In these instances, you will always be informed of expectations before enrolling.
No. Coaching is not considered a component of medical care, so no insurance companies or insurance plans provide compensation for these services, unlike mental health and recovery programs.
I do not offer free sessions, but have a limited number of appointments that are available on a sliding scale basis for those experiencing temporary financial difficulties. I do offer discounts to actively-enrolled students at the undergraduate and graduate levels and active or former military service members.
If you wish to access my services but cannot afford fees, please contact me so we may discuss your situation and circumstances.
Your per-session fee seems high. Do you charge that fee for every session?
Base fees cover my time, skills, knowledge, and services. Base fees ar charged when a client is looking for a single session to explore a particular need, desire, or issue.
If you complete an initial Startup Session, review the Proposed Coaching Plan, and commit to a multi-session, time-based program, your per-session fees are offered at a discount based on the number of sessions proposed. This approach can be a cost-effective way to take on coaching for a longer term.
For more information, schedule a chat and we can discuss further.
Do you make referrals to other embodiment coaches and other providers?
Yes. I provide some informal referrals, with some conditions.
I believe strongly that every client deserves the best access to the combination of services and providers that can best meet their needs. No single provider can meet every client’s needs. Referrals are optional, but can supplement the coaching program you have taken on, and help you build a network if you choose to continue your work after we have completed your coaching plan.
As part of my program, I will occasionally offer clients with information on providers who offer services that may be beneficial and complementary to the work we are completing together. This is not a formal referral, it is simply providing information on ways to enhance the work you are doing with me.
As the client, it is your responsibility to assess and determine whether you will pursue working with a provider.
Can you make informal referrals without my scheduling a session or working with you directly?
Unfortunately, referrals to other providers are only offered to paying clients. This is part of the value delivered to clients for engaging me in providing services.
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