About Me

Ecstatic Life Path for Men offers life coaching using an embodied life perspective. I work with all self-identified men to examine their life experience, identify their goals and passions, and aim to achieve their most desired goals.

Unlike traditional coaching, embodied coaching involves recognizing the whole wisdom of the entire body.

Through a combination of meditative, contemplative, and body-based practices, men on the ecstatic embodiment path learn that seeking wisdom from the entire body (not just from the mind) often can lead to more fulfilling transformative and expansive life experiences.

For those on the ecstatic life path, life’s journey can shift dramatically away from accumulation of material abundance and towards embracing the profound joys of truly living.

I consider myself a guide to peaceful living and a teacher of following a soulful path for living in joy in the present moment.

I work as a sex educator, sex researcher, and life coach. However, I identify as a pleasure activist, an erotic warrior, a Tantrika, and a sacred intimate. My goal in supporting you as my client is to help you disengage from your mind and to help you learn more about the incredible power of healing that exists in your body.

Although my practice is primarily sought out by, and structured through the lens of, gay- or bisexual-identified men, I regularly work with energetic beings of all gender identities, persuasions and manifestations, be they cis, trans, or gender-expansive, straight, bisexual, gay, or questioning. I believe we are all experiencing the human condition in the same physical embodiment, and thus we can all learn from each other.

We are all started with, and are still essentially walking with, “the same parts.” However, I believe the Universe has gifted us with unique and diverse manifestations of those parts (physical, energetic, spiritual) that I believe add a “living, breathing, sacred kaleidoscope” to the human experience.

I believe that there is considerable wisdom in the body. Unfortunately ourupbringing, cultural constructs, and societal expectations discourage us from listening to our bodies and convince us to remain prisoners to our minds.

To live a more healthy life, one free of stress, tension, and frustration, we must work each moment to stay connected to our physical selves. To not only survive, but to thrive, I believe we must stay attuned to our own energies as well as those around us. As part of that covenant, I believe it is vital to honor what is natural and of this earth, and to focus on the present moment, as it is the only thing that truly exists.

I was raised in Roman Catholicism, and I owe much of who I am to my religion of origin. For me, there were many beautiful gifts, including ritual, discipline, structure, prayer, and contemplation. At this point of my life, my spiritual path is a unique blend of Buddhism, Tantric philosophy, and Zen perspectives, grounded in a Christian (albeit not specifically catholic) tradition.

I recognize and celebrate the gifts bestowed in us of pleasure, presence, and physical sensation, and I invite all expressions of humanity, as we are all reflections of our Creator, of our one true Source.

I have considerable training and experience with both the academic/ theoretical, as well applied esoteric and somatic practices that I believe are valuable to living an ecstatic life. I have knowledge in the areas of massage, erotic connection, kink and power dynamics, sacred sexuality, spirituality, energy healing, and life coaching. I also have considerable knowledge in sexual orientation, gender identity, sexual expressions, and sexual health and wellness.

I hold both a bachelors and masters degree, and I am pursuing my PhD in Human Sexuality from the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco. I was trained in the practice of sacred intimacy by the Body Electric School, where I also served as a coordinator for programs in Texas for almost 10 years.  I have received training in surrogate partner therapy (also known as “sex surrogacy” in some circles) through the Institute for Mind Body Therapy.  I am a graduate of Barbara Carrella’s Urban Tantra® Professional Certification Training Program and now serve on the Program Support Team for the program. I am also a certified trainer in Points of You, a visual-based coaching and training method and series of tools that help you to learn more about yourself in new and unexpected ways.

Most recently I was offered and accepted a Postdoctoral Research Fellow position with the Department of Gender, Sexuality, and Women’s Studies at Virginia Commonwealth University. I will be working for and with Professor B. Ethan Coston, principal investigator.

With profound gratitude,