ECSTATICLIFEPATH
Dive deeply. Connect fully. Live ecstatically.
with Andrés Cordero, Jr., Ph.D., Human Sexuality,
Certified Coach, Points of You, and
Certified Sexologist, American Board of Sexology
Working With Me
You don’t have to become someone different. You may simply need more space to discover who you already are.
Ecstatic Life Path is an invitation to explore yourself with greater curiosity, awareness, and compassion. Through embodied coaching and sexuality and intimacy education, I create space for people—particularly those who identify as men—to explore the places where body, desire, pleasure, intimacy, relationships, identity, and personal growth meet.You might want to feel more comfortable in your body. Understand your desires more clearly. Experience deeper intimacy. Explore pleasure without judgment. Navigate changes in your sexuality or relationships. Build confidence asking for what you want—or saying no to what you don’t. Or perhaps you simply know that something in your life is asking to be explored, even if you don’t yet have words for it.You are welcome to begin there.
My approach is warm, affirming, pleasure-positive, trauma-informed, culturally responsive, and grounded in consent and choice. I won’t define what growth should look like for you. Instead, we create space to notice what is present, listen to what your body and experience may be telling you, and explore what greater connection, authenticity, pleasure, and aliveness might mean in your life.Come with a question. Come with a longing. Come with curiosity. Come as you are—and let’s discover what wants to unfold.
My Approach
What changes when you stop asking only, “What do I think?” and begin asking, “What am I actually experiencing?”
My approach to Embodied Life Coaching brings curiosity to the whole of your experience—your thoughts and beliefs, but also your body, emotions, sensations, desires, relationships, pleasure, boundaries, and sense of connection. Rather than separating personal growth from sexuality or intimacy, we can explore how these different parts of your life intersect and what they may be revealing about the person you are becoming.Our work might include exploring sexuality and intimacy, relationship patterns, pleasure and desire, body awareness, communication, boundaries, confidence, connection, or broader questions of identity and personal growth. Sometimes that means understanding something intellectually. Sometimes it means slowing down enough to notice what you feel. And sometimes it means safely experimenting with a different way of relating to yourself, another person, or an experience.
My approach is warm, pleasure-positive, affirming, trauma-informed, culturally responsive, and grounded in consent and choice. There is no predetermined destination and no single definition of healthy sexuality, fulfilling relationships, meaningful pleasure, or a well-lived life that I will impose on you.Instead, we begin with curiosity: What are you experiencing? What do you want? What feels authentic? What might become possible if you listened more closely to yourself?
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What We Can Explore
What might you discover about yourself if you knew you didn’t have to explain, defend, or apologize for what you wanted to explore?
Ecstatic Life Path offers a space to become curious about your body, pleasure, sexuality, intimacy, relationships, identity, desires, boundaries, and capacity for connection. We can explore what feels alive and fulfilling, what feels uncertain or complicated, and what you may be ready to understand or experience differently.That exploration is grounded in embodiment, pleasure-positive practice, trauma-informed awareness, and ongoing consent. We move at your pace, with attention to choice, boundaries, comfort, and what you notice in your own experience. Nothing needs to be forced, performed, or pursued simply because someone else believes it represents growth.
I also recognize that none of us experiences sexuality, intimacy, or our bodies outside of culture. Cultural responsiveness and LGBTQIA+ affirmation are therefore integral to my approach—not additions to it. Your identities, communities, relationships, family experiences, cultural background, and the messages you have received about who you are can all influence how you experience desire, pleasure, intimacy, and belonging.There is no single way you are supposed to experience your body, your sexuality, your relationships, or your life. There is simply the invitation to become more curious about what is true for you.
About Andrés
I know that sexuality, intimacy, and our relationships with our bodies can hold some of our deepest questions—and some of our greatest possibilities.
I’m Andrés Cordero Jr., PhD, a sexuality educator, researcher, and embodied life coach. My path to this work has been shaped not only by academic study and professional experience, but by a continuing belief that understanding ourselves requires curiosity about the experiences we actually live—in our bodies, our relationships, our desires, and the ways we connect with others.I work with individuals, specializing in people who identify as men, navigating questions about sexual confidence, desire, body relationship, intimacy, relationships, erotic exploration, and life transitions. You might be trying to understand what you want. You might want to feel more at home in your body or more confident expressing desire. You may be navigating changes in a relationship, sexuality, identity, or stage of life. Or you may simply be curious about possibilities you haven't yet allowed yourself to explore.
I bring scholarship and professional experience to this work, but I also bring warmth, curiosity, presence, and respect for the complexity of being human. I don't assume there is one right way to experience sexuality, pleasure, intimacy, relationships, or personal growth. Our work begins with your experience and unfolds through consent, choice, conversation, reflection, and embodied awareness.You don't need to arrive knowing exactly what you're looking for. Sometimes the most meaningful place to begin is simply knowing there is something within you asking to be explored.
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Helpful Resources
You don’t need to have all the answers to begin. Sometimes you just need permission to follow the question.
Maybe you’re wondering about desire, pleasure, your body, intimacy, relationships, sexual confidence, connection, or something you don’t quite have words for yet. You may be looking for information, trying to understand an experience, or simply curious about a part of yourself you’d like to know more deeply.This collection of articles, exercises, recommended resources, and frequently asked questions is here to support that exploration. Some resources offer information and perspective. Others invite you to slow down, notice what you are experiencing, reflect on what you want, or experiment with a different way of relating to yourself.
Explore what interests you and leave what doesn’t. There is no expectation that every idea or exercise will be right for you. Your boundaries, choices, experiences, and pace remain your own.And if something you encounter here opens a question you’d like to explore more deeply, you don’t have to know where the question will lead before beginning the conversation.
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Let's Get Started
Starting doesn’t require certainty. It requires curiosity.
You may know exactly what you want to explore—or you may simply know that something feels ready to change, deepen, open, or be understood differently. Either is enough to begin.My coaching process starts with a consultation, where we can talk about what you’re experiencing, what you hope for, and what working together might look like. There is no expectation that you commit to coaching simply because we have a conversation. This is also your opportunity to ask questions, understand my approach, and notice whether you feel comfortable taking the next step with me.
If we decide to work together, we’ll identify the coaching structure that best supports your exploration. Pricing and package options are available for different levels of engagement, whether you want focused support around a particular question or a longer journey of embodied exploration and personal growth.From there, our work unfolds collaboratively—through conversation, reflection, embodied awareness, curiosity, and experimentation—with your consent, choices, boundaries, and pace at the center of the process.You don’t have to arrive ready to tell your whole story. Just bring the part you’re ready to begin with.Let’s start there.
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Helpful Resources
These books, articles, and other resources offer opportunities to explore embodiment, sexuality, relationships, personal growth, self-awareness, and more. Some are practical guides, others invite deeper reflection, and all can serve as starting points for continued exploration.Books | Tantra and Sacred Sexuality | Sexuality & Relationships | Embodiment & Somatics | Personal Growth, Purpose & Spirituality
Articles | Family, Relationships & Personal Healing
Other Resources | Personal Growth & Self-Reflection
BooksTantra & Sacred SexualityRudolph Ballentine
Kali Rising: Foundational Principles of Tantra for a Transforming Planet
An exploration of Tantra as an embodied spiritual philosophy for personal and collective transformation. Ballentine presents foundational Tantric principles as tools for working with consciousness, energy, change, and our relationship to ourselves and the world.
Learn More / Buy the Book — AmazonBarbara Carrellas
Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century, Second Edition
An inclusive and practical guide to bringing Tantra and conscious sexuality into contemporary life through breath, energy, touch, mindfulness, and erotic exploration. Carrellas welcomes diverse genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, and erotic practices while offering exercises for cultivating pleasure, intimacy, and expanded awareness.
Learn More / Buy the Book — Penguin Random HouseBarbara Carrellas
The Book of Ecstasy: Opening Yourself Up to Erotic Energy—In All Its Forms
A fully revised and expanded edition of Ecstasy Is Necessary exploring ecstasy as an experience of pleasure, aliveness, connection, and radical self-acceptance. Carrellas combines practical tools, spirituality, and embodied exploration with attention to consent, boundaries, neurodiversity, trauma, illness, and times when ecstasy may feel inaccessible.
Learn More / Buy the Book — MacmillanSequoia Thom, M.A.
Divining Desire: Exploring Sacred Eros
A personal exploration of the relationship between sexuality and spirituality, informed by Thom's experiences with yoga, Tantra, meditation, and erotic bodywork. The book invites readers to move beyond sexual shame and explore greater integration among desire, body, heart, love, and spiritual experience.
Learn More About the Book — Google Books
Sexuality & RelationshipsDossie Easton & Janet W. Hardy
The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love
A foundational guide to consensual non-monogamy that challenges conventional assumptions about love, sex, jealousy, and commitment. Easton and Hardy offer practical tools for communication, boundaries, consent, managing emotions, and creating ethical relationships that honor everyone's autonomy.
Learn More / Buy the Book — Harvard Book StoreSusan Kaye
Am I Normal If?
An affirming exploration of sexuality, identity, body awareness, and the persistent question of what it means to be “normal.” Kaye encourages readers to move beyond externally imposed expectations and discover what feels natural and authentic for themselves.
Learn More / Buy the Book — Official WebsiteJack Morin, Ph.D.
The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Sexual Passion and Fulfillment
A thoughtful exploration of the psychology of erotic desire and the often surprising ingredients that contribute to sexual excitement. Morin introduces “core erotic themes” as a framework for better understanding desire, fantasy, intimacy, and sexual fulfillment.
Learn More / Buy the Book — Bookshop.orgDon Shewey
The Paradox of Porn: Notes on Gay Male Sexual Culture
A nuanced examination of pornography's complicated place in gay male sexual culture, acknowledging its roles in erotic discovery and liberation while questioning how it can shape expectations about bodies, desire, intimacy, and sex.
Learn More / Buy the Book — Bookshop.org
Embodiment & SomaticsBetty Martin with Robyn Dalzen
The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent
A practical and transformative exploration of touch, consent, boundaries, giving, and receiving based on Martin's influential Wheel of Consent®. Through embodied exercises and a simple but powerful framework, the book helps readers develop greater clarity, agency, communication, pleasure, and connection.
Learn More / Buy the Book — Official Wheel of Consent WebsiteRichard Strozzi-Heckler
The Art of Somatic Coaching: Embodying Skillful Action, Wisdom, and Compassion
A foundational introduction to somatic coaching and the idea that meaningful change involves the body as well as the intellect. Strozzi-Heckler presents embodied practices for developing awareness, presence, resilience, choice, and purposeful action.
Learn More / Buy the Book — North Atlantic Books
Personal Growth, Purpose & SpiritualityTama J. Kieves
This Time I Dance!: Creating the Work You Love
An inspiring guide to moving beyond conventional definitions of success and discovering work that feels meaningful, authentic, and alive. Kieves combines personal experience, reflection, and practical encouragement for taking courageous steps toward a life and vocation you love.
Learn More / Buy the Book — Penguin Random HouseElle Luna
The Crossroads of Should and Must: Find and Follow Your Passion
A visually engaging exploration of the tension between what we believe we should do and what we feel deeply called to do. Luna encourages readers to recognize external expectations, reconnect with their authentic desires, and take practical steps toward pursuing the work and life that feel most meaningful.
Learn More / Buy the Book — AmazonAndrew Ramer
Two Flutes Playing: A Spiritual Journeybook for Gay Men
A poetic and spiritually oriented exploration of gay male identity, sexuality, intimacy, mythology, and embodied love. Ramer invites gay men to understand sexuality not as something separate from spirituality, but as a meaningful part of emotional and spiritual life.
Learn More / Buy the Book — Wipf and Stock PublishersDon Shewey
Daddy Lover God: A Sacred Intimate Journey
A candid memoir of Shewey's journey into sacred intimacy, erotic bodywork, sexual healing, and the relationship between sexuality and spirituality. The book explores how erotic connection, pleasure, vulnerability, and embodied attention can become pathways toward self-knowledge, healing, and deeper intimacy.
Learn More / Buy the Book — Don Shewey's Official WebsiteAllen Silver
Man of Use: A Sensitive West Texas Boy Finds Purpose and Fulfillment in Erotic Service
A personal account of Silver's experiences and lessons from more than eighteen years working as a Sacred Intimate with men. Through stories of vulnerability, play, erotic service, and human connection, he explores how embodied intimacy can support self-discovery, growth, pleasure, and greater self-acceptance.
Learn More / Buy the Book — Amazon
ArticlesFamily, Relationships & Personal HealingHow to Cope with a Toxic Family Relationship
An accessible exploration of the emotional challenges that can arise within difficult or unhealthy family relationships. The article offers perspectives for recognizing harmful patterns, establishing healthier boundaries, and protecting your emotional well-being.
Read the Article — Tiny BuddhaHow to Break the Cycle of Painful, Dramatic Relationships
An exploration of why we may repeatedly find ourselves in relationships characterized by conflict, emotional intensity, or unhealthy patterns. The article encourages greater self-awareness and intentional choices as pathways toward creating healthier relationships.
Read the Article — Tiny BuddhaHow to Recognize and Overcome Dysfunction in Your Family
A practical look at recognizing dysfunctional family dynamics and understanding how those patterns can continue influencing us into adulthood. The article encourages awareness, boundaries, and intentional change as tools for developing healthier ways of relating.
Read the Article — Tiny BuddhaDysfunctional Family Survivors: 7 Myths That Hold Your Healing Hostage
An examination of common beliefs that can make it difficult to move beyond painful or dysfunctional family experiences. The article challenges assumptions about family loyalty, forgiveness, responsibility, and healing while encouraging readers to develop a more compassionate relationship with themselves.
Read the Article — Tiny Buddha
Other ResourcesPersonal Growth & Self-ReflectionTiny Buddha — Simple Wisdom for Complex Lives
An extensive collection of accessible articles and personal reflections on mindfulness, relationships, emotional well-being, self-acceptance, personal growth, and navigating life's challenges. Tiny Buddha draws on themes including compassion, mindfulness, purpose, and wisdom from multiple traditions.
Explore Tiny BuddhaTiny Buddha's Gratitude Journal: Questions, Prompts, and Coloring Pages for a Brighter, Happier Life
A guided resource for developing a gratitude and reflection practice through questions, writing prompts, and creative activities. The journal combines written reflection with coloring pages designed to encourage mindfulness and greater appreciation of everyday experiences.
Explore the Gratitude Journal — Tiny BuddhaTiny Buddha's Guide to Loving Yourself: 40 Ways to Transform Your Inner Critic and Your Life
A collection of personal stories, reflections, and practical insights designed to strengthen self-compassion and challenge habitual self-criticism. Its themes include shame, self-acceptance, forgiveness, comparison, authenticity, self-care, and developing a greater sense of personal worth.
Explore the Guide — Tiny BuddhaGuide for Creating Change: Starting Out and Starting Over
A self-guided resource focused on navigating beginnings, transitions, and the process of making meaningful changes in life. It encourages reflection on what you want to change, what may be holding you back, and how intentional choices can help create forward movement.
Explore the Guide — Tiny Buddha
2026 Fees: Schedule A
Base Fee: $300/hr.
| Service | Time | # of Sessions | Base Fee | Discount Rate | Total Fee | 2 Monthly Payments | 3 Monthly Payments | 4 Monthly Payments |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Introductory Session | ||||||||
| First Session (One) | 20 mins. | 1 | $0.00 (Free) | None | $0.00 | N/A | N/A | N/A |
| Single Sessions (One-Offs) | ||||||||
| All Sessions | 30 mins. | 1 | $75 | None | $100 | N/A | N/A | N/A |
| All Sessions | 60 mins. (1 hr.) | 1 | $150 | None | $200 | N/A | N/A | N/A |
| All Sessions | 90 mins. (1.5 hrs.) | 1 | $225 | None | $300 | N/A | N/A | N/A |
| All Sessions | 120 mins. (2 hrs.) | 1 | $300 | None | $400 | N/A | N/A | N/A |
| 3-Session Package | ||||||||
| All Sessions | 30 mins. (1/2 hr.) | 3 | $225 | 10% | $200 | $100 | $68 | $50 |
| All Sessions | 60 mins. (1 hr.) | 3 | $450 | 10% | $405 | $200 | $135 | $102 |
| All Sessions | 90 mins. (1.5 hrs.) | 3 | $675 | 10% | $608 | $304 | $203 | $152 |
| All Sessions | 120 mins. (2 hrs.) | 3 | $900 | 10% | $810 | $405 | $270 | $203 |
| 4-Session Package | ||||||||
| All Sessions | 30 mins. (1/2 hr.) | 4 | $300 | 15% | $255 | $128 | $85 | $64 |
| All Sessions | 60 mins. (1 hrs.) | 4 | $600 | 15% | $510 | $255 | $170 | $128 |
| All Sessions | 90 mins. (1.5 hrs.) | 4 | $900 | 15% | $765 | $383 | $255 | $196 |
| All Sessions | 120 mins. (2 hrs.) | 4 | $1,200 | 15% | $1,020 | $510 | $340 | $255 |
| Daily 8-Hr. Rate | ||||||||
| Daily | 8 hrs. | 1 | $1,200 | None | $1,200 | $600 | $400 | $300 |