Often sexual performance is hindered not by issues related to your physical body, but instead to issues related to your mind and spirit. I can guide you through practices and exercises to help reframe arousal and potentially bring you back to the level of performance you seek within yourself.

Our identity often lies in a spectrum, and very few of us fall completely into a simple category or description. Understanding that you are different, exploring how that is defined in your world, and finding that identity that you can most fully embrace (or, recognizing you do not fit anyone’s definition of an identity) is key to a life of greater joy and fulfillment. Together we can explore what that means for you.

Few recognize the potency of your eroticism as a fundamental component of claiming your power and motivation to achieve your goals and reach accomplishments in your life. Using this lens of eros, I can help guide you to understanding how eros can serve as that element that brings you closer to fulfillment and making the most of your opportunities.

If you are unsatisfied or frustrated in your intimate, erotic, or sexual relationships, it is possible that one key reason is that you are unable to step into a space of declaring your wants and needs to yourself and to your partners. Although it seems counter-intuitive, learning to ask for what you need often creates momentous shifts in how much pleasure, joy, and fulfillment you receive from yourself and from others. I can show you how to build on practices to get you what you want, in full integrity, with consent, and with the frequency you not only desire but deserve.

Unfortunately many of us may live in a world where shame, judgement, and negativity keep us from experiencing the full opportunities that lie in celebrating pleasure. You may find you are curious about specific experiences, activities, and actions, but have no one to help you understand how those curiousities may hold wells of opportunity to expand and grow in both pleasure and empowerment. Working together I can guide you to understanding how to claim these components of your erotic and sexual life as yours, and how to immerse yourself into them in a way that honors you and delivers on those gifts that were meant for you to experience.

For many, shame is a fundamental part of sexuality. If you live in a conservative culture, identify as anything other than cis or hetersexual, or even just enjoy expressing your sexuality, you can often be the target of commentary, reactions, and even confrontations about who you are as a person in the world.

Standing strongly in your identity, orientation, and expression can result in powerful change in your life. Suddenly, by being able to look beyond others’ expectations, needs, and desires for you, you automatically become empowered.  And that empowerment can only become stronger as you step into who you are with greater commitment, confidence, and self-acceptance.

For many, information on sexual health was obtained through the context of fear, shame, and intimidation. Sexual activity before marriage (even with only yourself) may have been shunned. Sexually-transmitted infections were described to you in a way that fostered fear and a desire to avoid sex altogether.

The truth is that not only is sex and sexuality part of life, but it is fundamental to many for true appreciation of life  and happiness. Healthy sexual relationships give us a more expansive understanding of how to connect with each other, helps us to feel safe and comfortable in vulnerability, and ultimatey for many, find true love.  

Together we can walk through sexual health and prevention to give you an honest, realistic, and thorough understanding of this fundamental component for your life. Free of bias, judgement, and influence, understanding sexual health and prevention from STIs and HIV can lower anxiety, help you make more realistic informed decisions, and enjoy your body more fully — the way it was meant to be.

For some, sexuality expands beyond the self and another or others. It extends to community. Celebrating eroticism, sexuality, and intimacy in a community of individuals who know how to practice consent, negotiate boundaries, and maintain connection can be a wonderful space for you if you seek it.

There are ways to explore these spaces, beginning with having a better understanding of your motivations, intentions, and purpose for these experiences. I can help you explore your options, determine spaces to consider, and connect to organizers of these spaces.